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Why do girlfriends/wives want you to get rid of your games?
Einhander:
Have you ever met someone that had to give up their collection because of their wife or girlfriend? A long time ago as a kid, I remember my cousin getting a whole stack of PS1 games and a Playstation from my other cousin's boyfriend. He simply said, ''My girl won't let me keep it, it's gotta go.'' That incident left profound affects on the way I view having games, even though I love to collect for myself.
My friend uses a binder to store his games. He feels guilty for collecting so much, so he just hides his discs away in his binder when he's not playing. Sticks the artwork and cases in his closet. Sometimes I wonder if this is just a side effect of other people's reactions.
Have you ever heard someone call you a ''hoarder?'' I think there are people who do hoard things to an extreme, but I think if you're balanced and it's not affecting your emotions, you're doing okay. If you save money and don't buy games, chances are you'll put it to something else which could be worse than games such as drugs, alcohol, eating out, trips or just things in general that could also be viewed as wasting money.
Back to topic, I am aware that some girls are like this. But if this happens to me, I'm not going to give in. I just am interested in why some girls do this. Is it because they want the guy to pay attention to her more and like her more than the collection? The worst part is when a guy gives in and the next month gets dumped after he already sold his games for her.
razielleonhart:
no clue but my girl is also a gamer ;D so my games are safe
Megatron:
My wife absolutely hates video games. In all of their forms. She has begun to accept the Wii...for Just Dance...that's about it.
I'm lucky to where my wife is a therapist (like me) so we have a very open understanding of things...but when we were dating, and when we got married, I made it very clear...don't ask me to choose, because you won't like the answer. Now I never SAID that, of course, I'm not that stupid. But the message was there.
To some people this is just a hobby. To others, it is a way of life. For some, it's how the make a living. I think it's all in how you identify yourself. To some, it isn't that big of a deal to give this up. There are things I could let go. If my wife suddenly had a problem with MasterChef, I could probably walk away from that.
And to wear the other shoe, to ask someone or make someone stop doing something they enjoy because he or she doesn't like it, well we have a word for them in the therapy world. They're an asshole.
Jeff:
--- Quote from: Megatron on December 03, 2014, 03:20:47 AM ---And to wear the other shoe, to ask someone or make someone stop doing something they enjoy because he or she doesn't like it, well we have a word for them in the therapy world. They're an asshole.
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Quoting for emphasis. If she gets upset over you playing games then there will probably be more problems like this that aren't related to gaming.
My last girlfriend wasn't a gamer, but she at least tried to play a few games with me. We had an understanding that I like videogames and she likes her girly anime and chick flicks. She also collected DVDs, so collecting games wasn't an issue either.
FritzWhite:
I remember reading a craigslist post once from some guy selling off all of his PS1 rpgs. His collection was nice. He wrote about how it was time for him to fully begin his adult life and to leave behind the childish things of his youth that were preventing him from fully realizing his potential as a man. The way that the post read was that he very much was going to miss the games, but had been talked into, (by someone else like a girlfriend, wife, or parent) and accepted that, to be a man, he must leave the games behind.
In a way, this can be true for some people who struggle finding the proper balance in their life. There is a guy on this other forum I frequent that brags about having put so many thousands of hours into one of his favorite games, but has never had a girlfriend and is in his 30s. He claims to have a bad back and no luck on dating sites, but still, there has to be a healthier more productive way to spend your time than sitting in front of a screen for the vast majority of the day. Don't we all have to maintain a balance in this regard? Online stuff can be fun, but there lots of other good things in life too. I get cranky if I don't get enough exercise.
My dad has tried to talk me into giving up videogames for years. He acts like I'm still being a kid being into this stuff. I don't care at this point. If I had to let go of it all tomorrow, I could. My world wouldn't be upside down and I think that's important. I like games, but it's just stuff. As long as your hobbies don't own you and define you as a person essentially then you're good. If this is what you live for and all that you care about then I guess you're not hurting anyone and I hope it makes you happy, but I can't believe that it would be enough to satisfy a human. We're meant to experience and enjoy more than just digital pleasures, we need a balance between work, sleep, food, family, sex, games, and physical activity.
Yes, my girlfriend is cool with it. She knows I like the games. I just make sure to aggressively remind her that I like her too. :-*