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mojoeskateco:

You are wrong you should never have to change yourself for someone if she doesnt love you for who you are there is no reason to be with her. I will argue my point untill we are both red in the face.

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This statement is valid to a point but if someone is totally ignoring their significant other or putting themself and their hobbies ahead of the other person all the time then they're basically a douche (not directed at anyone here - just general statement) and it would be hard for someone to love that kind of person in the first place.

Edit - if you are the type of person that always puts their self first then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship at all and if that's what you want then all the power to ya. (again just a general comment - not directed towards anyone here)

My gf doesn't like video games but she's supportive of the hobby as long as it doesn't consume all of my time, attention, money, etc.

As long as I keep it all organized and neat she's pretty cool with it.

laurenhiya21:
Both me and my boyfriend's major hobbies include gaming, so it works out well :>
(and we don't tend to worry about who's using the TV screen, because he tends to play more PC games, while I'm more into the console stuff)
Plus our game interests are pretty similar, so what I like he usually likes and vice versa (and it's just fun to talk about games in general)

So I can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone who doesn't like games, but I still think it's silly that people think they need to totally give up gaming for a relationship
If it would make you miserable to give up enough game time to make the other person happy, then obviously it just won't work. No point in making yourself miserable 24-7 when a relationship is supposed to make BOTH of you happy.
I can sort of see what BellaKazza means on changing yourself though (maybe?)... I mean, if you are a heavy drinker but the person who loves you just HATES that (but loves everything else about you let's say), then that might be a good thing to try and change that... Other than that sort of thing though, I don't think changing yourself for others is good :/

BellaKazza:

--- Quote from: Arseen on November 13, 2012, 01:17:13 PM ---
You are wrong you should never have to change yourself for someone if she doesnt love you for who you are there is no reason to be with her. I will argue my point untill we are both red in the face.

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I disagree here, if she does truly love you and just hates your hobby to a point where you have to choose between her and video games then relationships and marriage is more important.
I will give up things and change myself for another person because I believe in self-denial. I'm not saying you have to, but those who give up certain things they enjoy for a marriage are those who end up preserving marraige and strengthing the bond between them.

Arseen:

--- Quote from: BellaKazza on November 13, 2012, 02:43:30 PM ---
--- Quote from: Arseen on November 13, 2012, 01:17:13 PM ---
You are wrong you should never have to change yourself for someone if she doesnt love you for who you are there is no reason to be with her. I will argue my point untill we are both red in the face.

--- End quote ---

I disagree here, if she does truly love you and just hates your hobby to a point where you have to choose between her and video games then relationships and marriage is more important.
I will give up things and change myself for another person because I believe in self-denial. I'm not saying you have to, but those who give up certain things they enjoy for a marriage are those who end up preserving marraige and strengthing the bond between them.

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If she hates your hobby so much that she can't be with you because of it... kick the bitch to the curb as she has something deeply wrong with herself.

mojoeskateco:

--- Quote from: laurenhiya21 on November 13, 2012, 02:41:43 PM ---Both me and my boyfriend's major hobbies include gaming, so it works out well :>
(and we don't tend to worry about who's using the TV screen, because he tends to play more PC games, while I'm more into the console stuff)
Plus our game interests are pretty similar, so what I like he usually likes and vice versa (and it's just fun to talk about games in general)

So I can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone who doesn't like games, but I still think it's silly that people think they need to totally give up gaming for a relationship
If it would make you miserable to give up enough game time to make the other person happy, then obviously it just won't work. No point in making yourself miserable 24-7 when a relationship is supposed to make BOTH of you happy.
I can sort of see what BellaKazza means on changing yourself though (maybe?)... I mean, if you are a heavy drinker but the person who loves you just HATES that (but loves everything else about you let's say), then that might be a good thing to try and change that... Other than that sort of thing though, I don't think changing yourself for others is good :/

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Did both of you play games before you met each other or did one get the other into it?

My girlfriend played the Marios, Mario Karts, and Donkey Kongs growing up and will still play that kind of stuff with me which is cool. She will also try the more casual stuff like Wii Party, Wii Sports, etc.

She just doesn't get how I can play an RPG and I get that because even some hardcore gamers don't like them, however I think I could get her into one eventually. I know when I was playing through FFXIII she would stop reading her book and pay attention to the cut scenes and boss battles and then would start asking me questions about the plot to help fill in the parts she missed ;D.

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