This is a battle that can't be won, ladies and gents. In the end, everyone is gonna do what they think is best for themselves, no matter what.
I've dated plenty of girls that liked playing games, either as something that they chose to do before meeting me, or after meeting me and being subjected to it as a result. In fact, my wife is the only serious relationship that I've ever been in where she absolutely does NOT like games and has zero desire to give them a change. Buuuuut, she is more than accepting of it as a hobby and has NEVER given me grief about it. Game playing and collecting has been part of my life for roughly 30 years. It's not something that I would give up in order to satisfy anyone else. For me, that would cause resentment, and that would just end up killing the relationship in the long run.
As a person who's been with their spouse for 11 years and feels even more in love with that her today than I ever did before as a result of our own meaningful personal growth, acceptance, and ability to communicate in healthy, productive ways, I feel somewhat justified in leaving this little tidbit of advice.
Don't make any significant lifestyle change for someone else
exclusively because they want you to. It doesn't work, will inevitably resurface, and when it does, you can bet your bottom dollar that it will only cause misery. There absolutely NEEDS to be a desire, no matter how small, to make these changes for yourself. It needs to be for you on some level. On top of that, learn to choose your battles. Does he/she leave their dirty socks on the bedroom floor every night? Does that make you nuts? Is it worth a huge battle? Some things simply aren't worth the headache.
I do indeed leave my socks on the floor around the house, but my wife always leaves kitchen and dresser drawers open after use. Neither is relationship ending and we've both made peace with it. Some thing aren't worth it. Save the battles for something that REALLY matters.
Yeah, I'm kind of with Arseen here. If video gaming were consuming your life and you were ignoring your significant other, I could see the problem. But if it's a part of your life and it makes you happy without being completely intrusive she should accept it as a part of who you are. If the games make you happy and she knows this and still refuses to let you keep them, she doesn't truly love YOU. Because likely if it weren't games it would just be something else. Everyone has something that makes them happy and loving that person means, at the very least, accepting that about them simply because you want them to be happy, as seeing them happy should make you happy as well.
I don't think she's the one for you, mate. This is really just the tip of the iceberg, because I can guarantee you this won't be the first thing about you she's going to want to change or have you give up. Come to a compromise or simply move on.
Very well said!
